Thanksgiving is over and now we are in the busiest a time of the season. Many of us find this time of the most trying as taking our friend to shop even for groceries is just too much for them. Too many people and everything; people, customers, clerks, cars, items on the shelf are just moving too fast for our friend, which in turn makes us unease and in some cases frustrated. All of this is far too much for our friend to handle and we can see it on their face and in their actions.
There are times when we much go out and there are times when no one is available to help by coming to visit with our friend. Certainly, this is the preferred way for us to go out and take care of business. Not only are we less stressed, but our friend is also; all of which makes for a more pleasant time when we are at home. Adult Day Care solutions are certainly coming back into the venue for us. We can check with our local Division Aging and Adult Service Agency (www.AgingandAdultServices.com) or we can check with our faith organization; should the option be available we can have licensed help in for this amount of time.
The important factors to remember is take everything with a slow deliberate pace. Our friends take in everything and they pattern their frustration after us. Remaining calm and in control are demeanors which will serve us well. And always take time to just sit down and talk with our friends, ask their opinion. Certainly they may not be able to answer right then or maybe ever, but remember we all want a say, the opportunity is what will last with each of them. When in a situation where there is too much activity, we can try taking out some of the stressors, an example maybe at one department store where food and household good are sold under the same roof. There is a place to sit by the door, one side of the bench faces the door and the other faces an area with a display about ten feet away. Sit facing the display are, as the movement and loud noise is less of a distraction.
Our friends are overwhelmed and they take direction from us. We are their safeguard against everything out there. Keep things slow and quiet for our friends, however also allow for time to celebrate the season. One activity which is always a good celebration is The Bell Choir or Lighting of the community tree for this we can stay in our car and enjoy hot chocolate. Each of us will have to make the determination for our friend as to what each activity will hold for us. However it is important to remember to celebrate