“He told me something I wanted to hear, he saw things in me I didn’t see in myself and he believed in me.” With the benefit of experience, that quote is what I believe a Business coach is. To get to that point, however, it takes a certain skill set, experience and the desire to help others. How does one acquire that “skill set”? Well I believe there are many who believe, “they are born with it.” I disagree, vigorously disagree! From experience I know people “develop” these kinds of abilities. (There are no such things as – Born Leaders, Born Entrepreneurs, Born Successes, etc.) People can “map the attributes, characteristics, qualities” of any successful people in any area or aspect of life i.e., – Leadership, Athletics, Business, etc and systematically set out to acquire those same qualities in their lives. No need to “invent” solutions, it’s as simple as following the “receipt” for that great Cheese Cake you just ate, you can make it yourself and it will be just as good. (You’ll need to acquire the same ingredients, add them in the correct sequence, bake it at the same temperature, and you’ll enjoy the same Cheese Cake)
Successful Coaches know what “it should look like” they know what the required ingredients are, they trust their own ability to assess those ingredients and they are willing to share with others their insights. That last statement [willing to share with others their insights] is a BIG item. There is a prevailing mindset among many that when you figure out something that works, you guard that information with your life. This “scarcity mentality” is real, if you don’t believe me, spend some time around toddlers, it’ll remind you immediately; unfortunately, many adults have kept that mindset and it is not an effective model for individuals or businesses. The opposite, an “Abundance mentality” is the model that has lead thousands of businesses and individuals to achieve the most successful outcomes found on the Planet. Business Coaches are Abundance minded, they are willing to share their “nuggets” with others and that mindset is learned and they have learned it very well.
During my school years there were many Coaches I encountered who shared everything they had acquired during their respective careers in sport … they could “see” what it was they were working towards and how various young players would fit it. As I mentioned earlier, I wanted to be a “Full-Back” on our HS team; my Coach came up to me after practice one day and said, “Bill you are a great athlete, I know you want to be a Full-Back and I’ve watched you all week; you’ve given all you have, and I appreciate that. Bill you run fast, BUT you spend too much time in the same spot!” He was gently telling me, I’d not see much playing time at the Full-Back position, he like my short friend Gary did see my ability to throw a football, think on my feet, lead others and I became his starting QB for my last (2) years of High School. His Coaching helped me develop into a player that received a full scholarship to College to play QB – they saw things in me I didn’t, they shared everything they had and I was greatly benefited from their ability and insight! I was still required to do the work, to develop my skills and it paid off.
The process of “Coaching” is a time tested activity … there must be a “student” (one who is willing to be taught, open to insight, and willing to spend time developing) and the “coach” (one who is willing to share their experience, nuggets of wisdom, and follow through with honest feed-back) – when you can find such a relationship, I say, “Go for it.”