Debby Ryan addresses an abusive relationship she was in years ago. The Disney star and producer of “Jessie,” is coming forward to share her story. You’ll learn how the actress struggled with something she was shocked herself about learning when she realized what was happening.
Debby Ryan reveals that she felt trapped despite her career going great and her life in general going great. She explains that she was in a working relationship that evolved into a destructive relationship both emotionally and mentally.
Ryan tells People magazine: “I was like, ‘I’m a powerful woman and I’m a producer.’ I never thought that this was happening to me, and it was absolutely happening to me. It was kind of late in the game by the time I realized that this was not healthy, that this was not a good situation and that I was in a relationship that in nature was abusive.”
A number of harrowing experiences followed with this man — whom she says she wasn’t romantically involved with. One incident in Debby Ryan’s abusive relationship was particularly frightening when she was forbidden to leave him to spend time with her other friends. She recalls: “He chased me out of the room, grabbed me, put me back in the room, and followed me to my car and took my keys. I was like, ‘Okay, fine, get in the car, you can come with me.’ He was like, ‘No, you’re going to drive away and leave me here.’ He ended up grabbing my keys and holding on to my wrists and crawling into the passenger side from my driver’s side [so I couldn’t drive away].”
Over the course of their friendship, Debby’s abuser would call her up to 40 times a day whenever they weren’t together. He had serious trust issues. Debby found herself at the receiving end of accusations if she didn’t respond to this person’s calls instantly. This person became obsessive and threatened to overdose and kill himself if she didn’t spend time with him.
Ryan says she woke up one day and realized that it’s not her responsibility to make someone else happy. Her own happiness was being sacrificed to do it and she had no space. When she ended it with this person she’d known for years, she felt an enormous feeling of relief. She concludes her story, by saying: “I feel like I’ve come out so much stronger, but it’s a situation that enslaves you for a very long time. If I can learn anything from the scars, I don’t consider it a loss.”
Debby Ryan’s abusive relationship will hopefully serve as a platform to help others in similar situations. She’s an inspiration for her incredible strength and speaking out about this story.