So Fifty Shades of Grey had its opening night with glitter, glitz, long lines and limo’s, while Black or White was offering buy one get one free tickets to their meager audiences. If numbers tell us anything, then the U. S. is in worse shape than the pollsters indicate. Interesting that these two movies, vastly different than each other, deal with moral values that can be considered black or white and shades of gray. Their titles belie or reinforce their belief systems.
Perhaps Fifty of Shades of Mr. Grey is more aptly named then intended, or perhaps it was intentional. What is the big appeal that even educated woman are stooping this low and licking Mr. Grey’s boots? There’s got to be more to it than sex, cheap thrills and a handsome millionaire. And there is, just enough gray areas to make it appealing to the masses and not wholly condemned. Of course true Christians will see right through it, but they’re such a small minority they’ll have little effect. The plan is simple, and done a thousand times over. Just take something very dark: like erotic, kinky sex that borders on abuse and whitewash it with something appealing like a millionaire that will do anything for his pretty sweet, little “girlfriend.” Though he does marry her, still the end does not justify the means, unless you’re Machiavelli.
In the meantime let’s just explore some of the myths about sex and relationships that 50 shades entertains. I’ll admit I haven’t read the books or seen the movie, but I’ve talked to people who have, seen the trailers and read the reviews. Let’s call these”The 7 Highly Ineffective Habits of Mainstream Modern America and the Sexual Revolution”. (Now that’s a mouthful to swallow, but I hope it yields more than what Mr. Grey offers.)
Number one myth: We know better than God about sex (and everything else). In the beginning of creation, in Genesis it says that God created them male and female. He made Eve to be a companion to Adam and He instituted sex. “God blessed them and said to them, “Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it. Rule over the fish in the sea and the birds in the sky and over every living creature that moves on the ground (Genesis 1:28).” Sex was to be enjoyed within the bounds of love and to procreate. Man and women were to work together to subdue and take care of the earth. Sex was not instituted for our capricious, wandering desires.
Number two myth: Morals are archaic and the Bible is outdated. The Bible will never be outdated because the Bible is the Word of God and it addresses the issues of mankind and the essential quality of being human. God created us and knows what we needed back then and now. “When God created mankind, he made them in the likeness of God. He created them male and female and blessed them. And he named them “Mankind” when they were created.
Number three myth: if two parties agree, than anything goes! If that were true than it would mean that when Adam and Eve ate of the fruit of the tree, it was okay by God and nothing bad happened. But unless you know nothing about the Bible and are deluded, we know their actions introduced death and ruined the pristine Garden of Eden because two people agreed together to go against what God said. And looked what happened!
Number four myth: Sex is a thrill ride all the time. When you are infatuated with someone and fallen head over heels, sex is often thrilling, especially when it’s lust that has a hold of you and not love. Married couples can have fun, fulfilling sex, but it doesn’t need to be thrills’ and chills. It doesn’t need to be boring either, but there’s just way too much emphasis on it in our culture. Sex sells, but it also cheapens it to the level of animal attraction. Man cannot live on sex alone, well mainly woman. They need love and 50 shades doesn’t look much like love.
Number five myth: You should live together or have sex before marriage to see if you’re compatible. God says ” That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.” When you have a sexual relationship, you become one in more than just the physical plane. There is a spiritual unity that occurs. When people have multiple partners, they leave part of themselves with that person, and are no longer complete. It’s one reason why we have such hurting people today, trying to fill that part of themselves they left behind.
Number six myth: the end justifies the means. Though Americans have bought into this lie, we are now beginning to pay the consequences of believing this. There was an interesting long term study done on women who had multiple partners, more than three or four in their late teens or twenties. It changed their brain chemistry so that they were no longer fulfilled in a stable relationship, such as marriage, though they wanted to be. This is only a harbinger of the many negative side effects of promiscuity and erotic sexual exploits.
Number seven myth: Money is the root of all things good and desirable. Mr. Grey had all the money to lavish on his so called “girlfriend” that previously would have been looked upon as a sex slave. Even though she agreed to all sorts of sexual aberrations, she became a slave to it because she then viewed it as something desirable. It’s cheap thrills in replacement of love. Buying whatever you want, things and trips around the world just don’t buy love. No way. No how. Look at all the unhappy millionaires and their wives and the rate of divorce and bed hopping in Hollywood.
The problem is that movies like Fifty Shades of Grey, push the envelope a little bit further than before. I doubt this movie would have been released in regular theaters ten or fifteen years ago; it probably would have been considered porn. But it’s the old analogy of the frog in the water. Put a frog into a boiling pot of water and he’ll jump out, but slowly heat up the pot and he’ll stay there and eventually die. So America, I guess you just don’t feel the heat anymore. But I believe there is hope for the few that have the eyes to see. I hope this article enlightened you even just a little. Let me know.