Have you ever come across the sense of insecurity in the relationship you’re involved in? What do you do with this emotion? Is it normal or a sign that the relationship is coming to an end?
Many couples do face this issue. How do you handle it? The suggested advice is always to communicate however this comes across to the “insecure” person as a form of attacking. Unfortunately women are labeled as the most insecure. In some ways, I must agree, yes (being a woman myself) it’s harsh yet true. Don’t get me wrong sometimes the man can just be as insecure but when he shows his insecurity it comes off as machismo (high ego). Yes this is a bold statement once again but also true & some women enjoy it. Go figure.
Well, when you are the type of person who is in a relationship and insecurities have begun or intolerable; it’s time to correct or end them. Here a few tips to avoid this #1 reason of relationship breakups.
- TRUST: It’s too be given & received. Never has this been a one way street. You have to have trust in a relationship if you want it to last. If you keep saying the words “I trust you” & behind closed doors you’re snooping through their phones, emails, wallet & social media. You DO NOT TRUST them no matter how many times you say you do, action speak louder than words.
- HONESTY: Being honest with one another is most respected between the both of you. Always communicate about how you or they feel towards a particular situation. If you’re uncomfortable with a friendship your partner has with a former love; talk about it, let your partner understand that a friendship is just that; a friendship. When you find yourself being open about these specific issues; there is a sense of respect for being honest with each other. This alone will show you if your partner is the one.
- JEALOUSY: Well here comes the debate on the actual definition of jealousy & insecurity. To each their own understanding of this. Jealousy is just an evil emotion that makes you lose all your strong traits. When you feel jealous of someone that you feel is a threat to your relationship; it comes off as a sign that you are insecure of your own ground with your partner. Even at the most confident time in your relationship; one can feel an ounce of jealousy. Does that mean you act on it by the accusations & begin the investigating whereabouts? No! Communicate this emotion so it does not overpower your personality & turn you into a witch or jerk. A little jealousy is a natural feeling. When it gets out of control; that is entirely different issue.
- RESPECT: It’s this simple. When you respect your partner there is no insecurity. You have chosen to NOT inflict any other emotions in your partners heart & mind.
- INDIVIDUALITY: This is one MANY couples must REMEMBER to keep. If the two of you are happily married or in a long lasting relationship. Never forget what brought the two of you together. You were each an individual with your own goals, dreams, careers & thoughts. NEVER forget who you are as a person even during your courtship or marriage. Yes, I do believe in marriage being a “unity” (as husband & wife) but you are also a man & woman. It is OK for your partner to go out with their friends. It is OK for you to do the same. It is OK for you to have “me time”. It is OK for both of you to enjoy time away from each other as well as date night with each other. In a relationship or marriage one must remember that it’s OK to be away from your partner from time to time. It brings the two of you closer when there is some space between the two of you. You don’t always have to be with them. This doesn’t mean you don’t love them, it means you trust them enough to never make you feel insecure.
If & when you can accomplish this throughout (whatever kind) of relationship you are in. You will find that years later you are still together because you have been living in a secured relationship. It’s all up to you & how you handle things.