The holidays can be a difficult time to be single, for many people. One way to combat the loneliness is to get out and date. In many ways it’s can be a great time to start a new relationship. Statically more people around the holidays are looking to get into a relationship, rather than to just go out and find someone for a good time. The nights get longer and this can be another defining factor for a person who wants a partner to cuddle up next to…… Around the holidays dating, even for just a short period of time can also be tricky when holiday parties come up.
When is the appropriate time to invite a new boyfriend or girlfriend to a family’s house or the office holiday party?
There is a rule of thumb to go by when starting a new relationship and deciding to bring that special someone to a Christmas party or the big office party with colleagues. The best indicator to go by is “your gut”, if it feels comfortable than do it, if it does not then do not do it…..Instincts or “gut reaction”, if followed is the best method to go by. The mind may say it is too soon, the heart many say jump in, but an instinct is probably somewhere in between. A great exercise for getting to the gut of the reaction…..no pun intended…. is to close both eyes and visualize that person at the gathering. Also remember who may be at that gathering and what they may say, or do when a new person is introduced. Is it a small gathering, or a big gathering. will the host be happy to see a new person at the table or will they ask too many personal questions. Take into account all of what may happen and allow oneself to feel it. When done with the exercise open both eyes and feel for the “gut” reaction…..
When a person can visualize themselves in a situation the mind can physically and emotionally feel that it is real…..
As far as dating goes during the holidays it can be a great way to meet someone because people tend to be more open, but also it is not a time to put too much into a relationship and make it more serious than it is. For some people it can help them get through the holiday time just by having a new person in their lives that they can go to dinner with or watch a movie. Avoiding small intimate holiday gatherings with family may keep the relationship a little more simple until the holiday season is over and then two people can see how they feel about each other. As always let intuition be the guide.
Have a happy healthy holidays season……….