It is human nature that our body image and our self perceptions greatly impacts our relationships, especially our intimate ones. It is only natural that our body shapes, size and physical appearances will change as we age. Current news stories are addressing how Hollywood often shapes the perceptions we have of ourselves in becoming thinner, prettier, and healthier. This is why this only makes our body image suffer. Individuals who believe that they are not popular, not attractive to others, or just overall have a low esteem value, begin to feel lonely and isolated. They view themselves as being less desirable, with low self-esteem, then they wind up projecting these feelings indirectly on their family, friends, lovers, and potential relationships.
Helpful Tips Re: Body Image vs. Love
Relationships will only suffer when you become immersed in your own self image – or at least what you perceive to be your image. As you view your body image, forcing yourself to become engulfed in days of exercises and hours of self absorption, you become disconnected to your relationships. There are a few things that you can do to help start loving the skin that you are in, especially if it is not affecting your health:
1. Self Struggles: stop beating yourself up and stop berating how you look! The more you think about … “if only I,” only pushes your loved ones away from you.
2. Communicate: make a decision to talk to your family and friends about how you feel about your body image. If you can’t talk to them right now, seek confidential professional help. The more you talk, the less weight you’ll carry by yourself. If you are married or in a committed relationship, get your partner involved – after all they may not be aware of the issue you have with your body.
3. Take Time to Play: find a friend of family member to go to the gym with you as encouragement. Inviting a spouse to go with you is even better because they can give you emotional support. In this way, you don’t view the gym as work, instead it becomes a place of encouragement, a social interaction environment, and maybe even fun. If not the gym, join a dancing, bowling, swimming, or biking club. The end results will be calories, inches, then pounds, followed by a positive body image.
4. Professional Help: therapists can help you individually or as a couple, find the balance you need concerning your idea of your body image. They can help you build healthy coping tools to stop your defeats attitude without any self medicating behaviors. They can teach you to take it one day at a time and not to rush into various diets, just make lifestyle changes over time. Practitioners help you to calm your body and mind.
I Love You Just The Way You Are – Really I Do!
It is important to have a positive self image and a better self esteem so that you can become sexually fulfilled. People who don’t feel attractive in their body can affect their desire to have sex or to be intimate. When someone has thoughts of a negative body image, they may feel embarrassed about being naked around their partners, or being touched. This only results in an unstable relationship! Because it’s hard for people with low self esteem to believe they’re loved unconditionally and are accepted by their partners, they have a tendency to hold back from being fully committing in relationships or making themselves vulnerable, that are unhelpful for relationships.
A Good Relationship and Your Body Image
There is also a flip side in how your body image impacts your relationship. Men and women who are satisfied with their relationships, are also satisfied with their present body image, whether they are at their ideal weight or not. When men or women had previously been on a diet and they met someone new and a relationship began forming, then the satisfaction with their body size, shape, and weight did not matter as much. This goes to prove that our satisfaction with our body image is impacted by how happy we are in a romantic relationship, then what we perceive our weight selves to be.
Men or women who are self-confident don’t worry so much about their weight, thereby establishing a healthy and good relationship. When you feel pretty good about yourself and secure about who you are and what is important to you, it may be easier to make relationships with people who admire you for who you are and not about who you think that you would like to be.