Most everyone is familiar with the song, “Blue Christmas.”
I’ll have a blue Christmas without you
I’ll be so blue just thinking about you
Decorations of red on a green Christmas tree
Won’t be the same, dear, if you’re not here with me
Elvis Presley – Blue Christmas Lyrics | MetroLyrics
Seldom do we think how brutal Thanksgiving can be on people’s emotions. Memories are triggered that rekindle that deep hole of ache. Countless individuals will face this Thanksgiving with a heavy heart. Sure they know all the things they are supposed to do to make it better, volunteer at a homeless shelter, care for an abandoned pet, or simply take a walk, but they may not have the energy to do these things. This year someone you know may have experienced unbearable pain, and Thanksgiving may challenge the very depths of their feelings.
Some will have undergone a deep depression for the first time in his or her life. They may still be trying to climb out of the darkness. The morning light of Thanksgiving may trigger the blackness depression creates. They may remember Thanksgivings past when they laughed and felt lighthearted. Those memories may initiate thoughts of suicide, or the belief that things will never be better. Don’t expect this person to be their old self, don’t ask them what is wrong, just give them some tenderness. They probably don’t have the strength to reach out to others. It is up to you to reach out to them.
Death of a child:
For some, they had to face the ill-fated tragedy of having a child die. When they turn on the TV and see all the made for TV movies with happy families, the pain they feel in their heart may overwhelm them. It may feel as if they are experiencing the loss of their child again. Recollections of Thanksgivings past flood their minds. Don’t force them to come to the dinner and watch other parents wipe the food from their child’s face. Go to them. Let them tell you their memories. Hold them when they cry.
The loss of love:
When a person suffers the loss of love, through death, divorce or a separation, a penetrating desire for the last time they were together consumes every thought. It is the empty feeling of waking up in the morning and seeing an unoccupied pillow beside them; it is being powerless to touch the face of the one they love. It is the loss of enjoying a busy day getting ready for the Thanksgiving events together. It is the loss of having the arms of the one you love holding you tight. It is a Thanksgiving of feeling hollow. Don’t tell this person to get over it and go forward. The first Thanksgiving of being without the one they loved, is new ground for them. This year just let them cry, or sleep, or whatever it is they need to do to survive the day.
For others, they may be waiting for test results from their doctor about their health. They will try to be joyful and enjoy the day. However, in the back of their head, will be worry about their health, and they may be wondering if this is their last Thanksgiving. Let them zone out if they need to, but visit with them about things that may make them laugh. While they laugh, for a moment, they can forget what the results of the tests may show.
No job, no money:
For those in financial crisis, Thanksgiving means the beginning of the pressure to buy gifts. They may be struggling to figure out how to keep the lights on and the house warm. The stress these people are in this time of the year can make them lose hope. Give them a hand up, show them you have faith in them, open your door and share a meal with them.
Hoping this Thanksgiving brings healing to those that need it. Hoping this Thanksgiving friends and family are given the wisdom to ease the pain of those they love. Hoping hugs are lavished on those that yearn for them. Hoping those without jobs and money will have a door open for them. Hoping those who have lost someone they love, can find enough strength to love themselves.
MAY BLESSING BE GRACIOUSLY GIVEN TO ALL THIS THANKSGIVING