“Let your conduct be without covetousness; be content with such things as you have. For He Himself has said, ‘I will never leave you nor forsake you.'” Hebrews 13:5″Better is a little with the fear of the Lord, Than great treasure with trouble.” Proverbs 15:16 “Not that I speak in regard to need, for I have learned in whatever state I am, to be content.. Everywhere and in all things I have learned both to be full and to be hungry, both to abound and to suffer need.” Philippians 4:11-12
Many may be seeking contentment in relationships- a relationship filled with ease, gratification, satisfaction, “happiness”, pleasure, homeostasis, or for keeping the “status quo”. A simple discussion perceived as an argument, a discord in communication, a move to a new home just a short distance away, a financial upheaval, differences in the manner of clothing style, personal goals, work stress, change of job, losses, unrealistic expectations, housekeeping issues, or even an issue about the children’s school may disturb that status quo.
Perhaps any deviation, deprivation, disruption, or disturbance of that status quo may frustrate the ease or contentment once enjoyed in the relationship. The couple may express anger, distress, anguish, agony, sorrow, suffering, grief, misery, worry, or concern. But is that good or bad? A few may believe that to accept any of the above other than contentment may be evil.
Contrary to the common expectation for wanting contentment in the relationship, contentment may result in a reduction in communication, attention or care. Yes it may be true that many couples who are adept, or know the routine, may communicate little or seem content; but is that good or bad? Indifference, little or no communication may end up in, or ‘is’, relationship dissolution; and thus, contentment if in thing may be good, in relationships it may be bad. Because as changes come in life, as inevitable as they are, communication, care and attention is but may be required for to adjust.
After all, which is better, to communicate if even negatively, or not to communicate- if content, seemingly. The latter, of course, is a relationship without communication, which is “no relationship”. Does that mean contentment may result in “no relationship”? Is that what one wants when seeking status quo in the relationship, a marital dissolution? May be people are not “things” to be content about. This is anti-intuitive to think that a discordant communication is better than no communication at all!