He who trims himself to suit everybody will soon whittle himself away …
We all want to be respected, liked and sought after for our abilities and skills don’t we? The opinion we have of ourselves and the perception that others have of us hopefully is aligned. What do you do when it’s not?
I was confronted with that yesterday. While attending one of my weekly networking meetings the leader, Jevine, a good friend of mine approached me after the meeting about Tammy. Jevine started the conversation and mentioned, “I’m concerned about Tammy as a person and for her business, she’s just NOT getting the big picture here, she’s unwilling to accept any responsibility, would you talk to her in your direct, frank and no BS style? (She did not abbreviate the BS) I said, certainly and then the “voice in the head” kicked in. Am I really a direct, frank, no BS style of person? I think of myself as a kind hearted Coach with your best interest at heart.
The “voice in my head” wouldn’t let go of this thought so I began to take a closer look at what was going on.
Years ago I was looking for my Genius as defined by Dick Richards who wrote a book titled, “Is your genius at Work? – 4 Key questions to ask before your next career move” His definition of genius is based on the premise that, “today, we are more likely to agonize over our apparent shortcomings and failures than to recognize something unique and valuable about ourselves.” “Your genius is one of your gifts.”
During my quest to discover my genius (which is – Awakening Solutions) one of his suggested exercises was to ask several people you interact with on a frequent basis, “When you come to me for assistance, help, advice, etc, why do you seek me out? What are you looking for from me that you know you’ll get?” I did this with many people and thinking back on the feedback, many mentioned my “no non-sense approach to problems, clear thinking, fast acting, and honest input.” Obviously, Jevine distilled all that into – “direct, frank, no BS style” As my wife would say – Busted! (Simply “me being me”)
If I were to “whittle” myself away to become a pleasant kind hearted guy with your best interest at heart, I’d become un-authentic, and less effective as a person, and as a Coach. My advice to myself (and to you) is to discover your genius, align yourself with it and be true (authentic) to yourself.
I’ve called Tammy and set the appointment, and I’m calling Jevine to thank her for reminding me “who I am.”
Here’s to your success today and may you succeed in discovering your Genius!