I’ve written about heartache and cutting ties when relationships weren’t right for me more than I have written about finding love, because it is rare and when it comes along, you hold on to it as long as it is there. You know what absolutely terrifies me when it comes to love far more than not finding the one? Mediocre love. People settle for jobs that pay their bills with a micro-managing supervisor, affordable material possessions instead of that sports car or return that handbag they impulsively purchased that is way too expensive for their budget. As humans in the modern world, we settle and accept many things because we are being responsible and cautious in order to survive the chaos that is life. It’s better to be safe than sorry, as they say. Love, however, should never be one of those things…ever. Love should be passionate and intense.
It should set your soul on fire and scare the hell out of you a little bit at first, as it blazes into something that consumes your thoughts and exhilarates your being. It can be scary to feel that fire and know that it could set you free or destroy you, especially if you’ve been broken before. It’s like dipping your toes into a steamy hot bath. At first it’s scalding, and you’re afraid to get burned, but once you get in it feels amazing and you feel like a different person…a better person, even. The right person can amplify the best parts of you when you are happy, and make you naturally want to be a better person. You will know when you’ve made the right decision, because you will feel it to your core. It doesn’t matter how broken or afraid you’ve been…it is about what makes you laugh again.
“Maybe it won’t work out. But maybe seeing if it does will be the best adventure ever.”
Even if you haven’t been in love before or previously broken, you may feel like you were blissfully unaware of the void that had been reserved for them before they were ever in your life. As if the moment you loved them, there was a line drawn in your life, creating a “before and after” that person. Love has the power to create, empower, destroy and devastate; it is all things worth living and dying for in this world. Most of the most coveted books, movies and songs have been written about it throughout history. It is one of the most common universal themes that all humans can relate to no matter where we reside in the world.
It is a theme that can be used in so many ways, because humans are complex beings. We stay in relationships longer than we should, settle for less than all-consuming love, attempt to force relationships when we should not. There’s true love, one-sided love, self-love, untrue love, and so on. They all result in many different emotions: happiness, jealousy, anger, resentment, complete bliss, etc. Nothing is perfect and it won’t always be butterflies and rainbows, but the good should always out-weigh the bad overall by far. There are those who will speak love, but their actions never match what they claim.
Love isn’t always about your significant other. It involves family and friends as well. If love and respect is not being reciprocated, or you don’t feel valued in the relationship, then it is not a good one. Those who love you will be thrilled for your happiness and support your choices. Only you know what you truly want in life and you are the only one who will regret it or be upset if you do not get what you want. It is not your job to make anyone else happy, that is his or her job.
“Notice the people who are happy for your happiness, and sad for your sadness. They’re the ones who deserve special places in your heart.”
Basically, whatever makes your heart sing, is worth pursuing and exploring with everything you’ve got. You can love many people in your life, but being in love with a person is a completely different concept. The kind of true love smolders even with its last breath. Love, my dear, should never be mediocre; it should light your fire.