I write on relationships and always read & hear the same complaints. I personally find it rare that you can come across some “inspiring” articles on happy, successful, long lasting relationships. Unless they are on advice & tips. I chose to write this article to simply give a little hope to those who still believe there is someone out there for them. To give up hope on men or women because of past failed relationships is completely a way of coping out to avoid being hurt. Time after time I’ve read and seen people (men & women) shut of being involved with someone because they’re tired of rejection, the drama or the trust issue.
This in some ways is not healthy unless you’ve personally taken a vow of celibacy for religious callings. Avoiding the opposite sex for fear of how it will turn out isn’t a good way to live life. You will constantly be miserable. There is no such lifestyle of NOT wanting that feeling of sharing your life with someone. Unless you’re a monk.
I too fell in that category many a times and finally decided to completely stop “dating.” This was the path I chose to take to clear my head of what I really wanted from a relationship or if I even wanted one at all. After years of being single one day came about where I declared to myself that I too wanted a long lasting relationship with all that comes with it. I completely did a 360 in everything I was trying to stay clear from. This is how and why I say “being alone” is not something we really want in life. Everyone wants that feeling of impeccable endless butterflies in your stomach; because when reality hits YES it feels unbelievably AMAZING.
The key to finding this type of relationship is not in “FINDING” it. It is in “BEING” the right person. So that you may be able to share the same emotions you long to have. If you’re desperate, attention seeker, drama queen, a player or to dam picky this is what you will attract. You must be assertive in what you want and seek. Once you find the person and there is that chemistry, take it day by day, do not rush anything, not even sex no matter how strong the physical attraction is. WAIT.
The more you connect with a person; the relationship becomes more intriguing, more seductive, and more intense. The both of you want it more & it’s not the sex. It’s because YOU became the RIGHT person; to know how to handle what you want from a relationship.
Once you’re there make sure that the most important component in the relationship is LOVE. Strength, courage, trust and respect will help you with a huge part in your relationship but in the end it’s LOVE that gets you through anything and everything.
If I, who chose to trust in LOVE found myself in a 10 year relationship ending in marriage yesterday. So can you.