As the end of the year approaches, many are thinking about the things in their lives they want to change in the new year. When making New Year’s resolutions, everyone always begins with the usual ones: lose weight, go to the gym, eat healthier, stop swearing, go back to school, get a better job.
The majority of these resolutions are never kept. The first few days are easy, however, as time goes on, most fall into the “just one time” category: “It’s okay if I don’t go to the gym just this one time.” “It’s okay if I eat just one piece of cake that has one thousand calories just this one time.”
The problem with this thinking is, it’s never just one time. One time turns into two, then two into three, etc.. Before one realizes it, they’ve gone back to their old ways, and decide that they’ll try their new resolution next year.
Instead of making these same resolutions year after year, why not try a new resolution? A better resolution: spending time with the spouse.
When a person first gets married, it’s easy to make the time to spend with their spouse. However, as time goes by, they can make all kinds of excuses to get out of this alone time, even if their reasons are valid.
The problem with this is it’s just like with all new resolutions: one time turns into two, then two into three, etc..
With the resolutions of not losing weight or going back to school won’t hurt one’s marriage. But not spending alone time with the spouse will hurt every marriage.
So this year when choosing a New Year’s resolution, make a better one. Choose to spend more quality time with the spouse. There may be times when canceling a spouse date is unavoidable (i.e. have the flu, have to work, etc.), which is completely acceptable, as long as they don’t get canceled altogether.
The time spent together doesn’t have to be some big, elaborate event. Take a walk through the park or go to a restaurant; even if it has to be a Chick-fil-a or Taco Bell on Archer Road or perhaps Boston Market on Newberry Road. If going out is a problem, then turn off all electronics (i.e. cell phones, tablets, computers, etc.) and just be alone in a room in the house.
Just taking a few moments to talk about nothing important can go a long way to improve a marriage. Even remembering the dates you had before getting married can brighten one’s day.
In whatever way one spends time with their spouse, doesn’t matter, as long as they are taking time to be with their significant other.