Lesbian dating in Los Angeles is no joke, and can actually be quite scary. It goes a little something like this: Girl meets hot girl, 5 hours later or less, girl and girl engage in passionate sex. They’re convinced that they’re in love and they move in together. Two months later, the relationship is over. Although this is somewhat of an exaggeration, let’s face it-it’s real simple to find a sexy woman to date in the City of Angels, but if you’re looking for something real, and want actually want to get hitched, you have your work cut out for you. There’s the women who are just looking for a wild night of sex, bisexuals pretending to be lesbians, or women who never cash in their players cards even after committing to a monogamous relationship. I can go on and on, but you get my drift.
Are you a single, hot femme in LA who wants your stud or femme charming? Look no further! My girl Mira Johnson, the Success Coach for Ambitious Women in Their 20s, is sharing her secrets to attracting the love you want for 2015! If you don’t know Mira, she’s one of the few out lesbians in LA who help women succeed in love and life!
In this article, Mira not only gives us the skinny on attracting your soul mate, but also reveals how she found the woman of her dreams. But first, here’s some of the top mistakes lesbians make that keep them single.
What are the top 3 dating mistakes women make that keep them single?
MJ: I believe that all dating issues are solved by truly knowing yourself, having realistic expectations and taking time to really get to know someone else. The person you’re looking for will be a reflection of you and your level of personal growth.
What advice would you give to a single, accomplished lesbian woman who was struggling to find the love of her life?
MJ: Read ‘Getting The Love You Want’ by Harville Hendrix. It’s written in hetero language, but applicable to any relationship. My advice is to continue to grow, stay open and do what you love. Soul connections often show up when you least expect them.
What are the 5 most important characteristics women should look for in a long-term mate?
1. Emotional Maturity – Good communicator, willingness to be vulnerable
2. Respectful & Supportive – Trusts and values your opinions, wants the best for you and the relationship
3. Integrity – She’s kind and trustworthy
4. Independence – She has her own life, friends and opinions
5. Compatible Personality – You get along and have a lot of fun together
Do you believe that engaging in sex too soon complicates lesbian relationships? If yes, how so?
MJ: In my experience (and scientifically) sex can really accelerate the ‘love’ chemicals. If you’re looking for something long-term, it’s helpful to wait at least a few dates to be aware of red flags or deal breakers before getting intimate. You don’t want to get attached to someone who will ultimately be a bad match.
How did you and your significant other meet? How did you know she was ‘the one’?
MJ: We met on OKCupid – a 99% match! We got to know each other slowly and really worked to build a solid foundation. I could see after about a year that we were truly compatible. She’s someone who makes me want to be the best version of myself. We want many of the same things in life and we’re both committed to personal growth.
What were some of the issues you faced in the dating scene before you met your current partner, and what did you learn from them?
MJ: I was a classic serial dater before I met my partner. I did not allow much time between relationships to heal. I’ve learned that on a subconscious level, we re-create the dynamics we observed in our parents or caretakers. (usually these are dysfunctional patterns) I’ve done a lot of reading and counseling to better understand this.
You are an accomplished success coach who has helped women from all walks of life create a life of their dreams. How did you get started as a coach and what is your most proud accomplishment to date?
MJ: I went to college for business and marketing before I realized I wanted to become a coach. I spent my 20s in ‘discovery mode’ trying anything and everything to narrow down my passion. I finally discovered coaching as an option and completed my certification courses; a year later I launched my business! I’m proud to have developed The #Ambitionista Success Club. This is a one-year mentorship program where clients partner with me to transform their lives.
What is the one skill you possess that truly helps your clients get over their pain/insecurities and embrace their power?
MJ: I’m very intuitive and a powerful listener. I help clients hear their truth and hold them accountable to a plan of action.
What three secrets you can share with audiences to help them get on the path to living a successful life?
MJ: Success is about your mindset and the people you surround yourself with.
1. Commit to always learning and growing.
2. Align yourself with other successful people.
3. Spirituality and gratitude will accelerate your path.
To learn more about why Mira Johnson rocks and how she can help you be your best self, visit lifecoachlosangeles.com. You can also find her on Twiiter at https://twitter.com/MiraJohnson, and on Facebook at http://Facebook.com/groups/Ambitionista