Everyone is busy scrambling to get together their New Year’s resolutions in the last days of 2014. While most are fussing over what they will or won’t eat, and what they will or won’t do, many are forgetting to take into account one important factor of their life: the people you surround yourself with. Every year it’s the same behavior from the same people. We have gotten so used to looking the other way while people behave in foolish or hurtful ways that we don’t even notice things that are toxic to our lives. It’s easy to overlook toxic behavior when the offender is someone we care about. That doesn’t make it okay. The new year should always bring about some type of progression in personal growth, and your circle of family and friends should at least be moving in the same direction. Here are a few types of people that you should consider leaving behind as the year winds down.
Negative minded people. We all know at least one person that seems to find the worst in anything and anybody. Most of the things that come out of their mouth are something negative about someone else or their intentions. If it doesn’t involve them, it’s somehow flawed. There is always a guaranteed moment of discomfort in interacting with this person because they always have something critical or negative to say. If you want to continue living a positive life, this is the type of person you should consider removing. Negativity can be extremely contagious, and it’s unappealing. Negativity is very noticeable, and it makes others not want to be around and/or work with that person. This can affect you as well. Leave miserable people to dwell in their bitterness alone if they show no genuine signs of trying to be more optimistic.
People with lack of ambition. If you are someone who believes that achieving your life goals and dreams are possible, and you work hard to see these things come to life, you need to associate with others who do and feel the same. Surround yourself with doers and those that have a plan for their life. People that just live day to day basing life off whatever direction the wind blows them in are generally not as driven,very unmotivated, and can often be very dependent on others. If you are not content with just being mediocre, and good enough is not enough, your affiliations should reflect that as well. Surrounding yourself with ambitious, like-minded people is not only a great way to network and collaborate, but it is also another way to keep your ambitious spirit and remain encouraged in your journey.
People that entertain drama. There are some people that just love drama, or at least they seem to love it because they are always in the middle of it. These are people that will eventually bring chaos to your life, if they haven’t already. Drama-filled people always end up with their name in the middle of something, whether they caused the problem, or just kept the mess going. These people seem to only feel relevant when they’re causing problems or upsetting someone else. This is not a person of substance, and if they’re still engaged in this behavior as an adult they more than likely won’t change their stripes. Drama has no place in personal growth, and if you want inner peace and a drama free life, it’s time to weed out those that have not stepped out of that place. With all that the new year has to offer, you have no time to slow down and deal with petty situations or people.
Passive aggressive people. You know this type of person. They’re all over social networks, hiding behind subliminal messages almost weekly, and full of dishonest and excessive “lol’s”. This person has so many issues with anything and everybody but you’d never know for sure, because they will never be direct with you, or anyone for that matter. This type of person is dangerous to have in your life because they are not loyal, they are sneaky, and they are paranoid and defensive because of the way they know they treat other people. This person will smile in your face while dogging you online in subliminal posts and memes, or while talking about you to their other friends and family members. As the years fly by, we want honest, loyal people surrounding us, not those we have to question the trust of. If you feel that someone in your life has sketchy ways that cannot be trusted (even if the behavior was directed at others in their life), make a smart decision to leave this person behind. Problems will never be resolved (if they even surface) because this type of person will never admit when they are doing something foul. The passive aggressive person usually believes they are good at disguising their sneaky, backstabbing ways. They often take the approach of saying “if the shoe fits, wear it”, or “that must be your guilty conscience”, even though they know that the ill intent exists. This person is poisonous and doesn’t deserve your time, loyalty, or attention in the years to come.
Bullies. There is nothing good about someone who picks on or hurts other people. Anyone that bullies others has internal issues that are unresolved, and it is dangerous to have people like this in your life. It is only a matter of time before they turn their attention to you as a target. Avoid bringing people that enjoy hurting others into the new year with you.
Dead enders. Dead enders are people that you know serve no major purpose in your life, but you keep them along for the journey anyway. This category includes people that don’t seem to value your friendship, people that only talk to you when they need something, and people that you know are simply no good for your life but you keep them around because they serve some kind of purpose (financial, fun, etc.). This also applies to your dating life. Dead enders would include people you date that don’t show you the attention you desire, those that are already in relationships or marriages, those who only call you when it’s time for bedroom play, and those who claim they’re into you but continue to date and get into relationships with everyone but you. Declutter your life by getting rid of these people that don’t value all that you have to offer, and make room in the new year for those that will appreciate you and desire substance as you do.