New Year’s has fallen upon us, yet again, which we all know is a time for resolutions. We all have them, but how many have you been able to keep. So many times we create a resolution that is quite unattainable, then it gets downright depressing because you couldn’t achieve it. You think, “there has to be a better way”, and there is. Making and keeping resolutions doesn’t have to be some grand plan that is so elaborate that it is sure to fail. Sidney Howard stated that “One half of knowing what you want is knowing what you must give up before you get it. “ In other words, many resolutions will have you give something back to move forward. An example of this is losing weight. There isn’t a magic pill or wand that will achieve your goal, it will take work. Cutting back on calories and increasing mobility through exercise. Are you willing to do the work that is the question?
Foremost, a resolution does not have to be a life alternating impetus. It should be a realistic goal. According to the American Psychological Association, “Setting small, attainable goals throughout the year, instead of a singular, overwhelming goal on January 1 can help you reach whatever it is you strive for.” By creating a reasonable resolution you will achieve that goal and then with achievement met, you can always up the ante by increasing the goal. Consider for example weight loss goals. Instead of looking at a 50 pound weight loss set goals of 5 pounds at a time. According to research it has shown that people who don’t meet their goals in dieting will become less likely to try again. When you achieve a lesser goal you can go on then to a larger goal.
A resolution can take time to conquer. As they say, Rome wasn’t built in a day. The bad habits we have, have taken time to become a part of ourselves. It will require more than one day to produce new healthy habits. Most of all, if you suffer a setback, don’t throw in the towel. Do not beat yourself up for a slip or a mistake; it is normal to experience some setbacks. You shouldn’t use a mistake or a slip as an excuse to abandon your resolution either. When the goal is to create a healthy lifestyle change you need to be patient so you can create a long term goal. Remember, you aren’t perfect and then remember that minor mistakes that are made in reaching your goals are completely normal.
When trying to keep your resolution don’t forget to reach out to others. When you reach out to others to talk about your goals, you will find common ground and companionship in achieving your goals. Talk to a friend about what you’re attempting to reach. Having support from others is like having a soft place to fall. You aren’t judged and the backup you receive will help in your accomplishment. Achievement is always sweeter when shared with someone else who cares.