I guess it’s alright to talk of love, and even marriage in a dating advice column. Why? I have been writing about dating for years here. I employed my own advice and found someone special to date even. So special that I am now married. So I guess you could say the dating column and the taking of it’s advice is where many want to go, to stop dating ala “success”. I haven’t written an article here for months because I’ve been busy getting engaged, freaking out about commitment and finally, getting betrothed. You’ve no idea the details of even a simple wedding.
So where do I go from here? Do I keep writing about dating though now it seems to be fading behind me? The trials and tribulations of dating now seem like childbirth to a woman who has a five year old. Not sure what to do, perhaps I try to broaden my writing to include love in marriage? I have already learned a lot and don’t think I would be for lack of insights. Even in the months leading up to my wedding.
I learned that when you commit to someone in your heart, then in front of the world, you really re-think the stuff you do in dating like pushing someone away, getting all huffy and puffy, or thinking “I’ll get on match and see if there isn’t someone better.” That and other douche-baggery seems to get checked at the “aw I really love you door.” You realize that you not only love someone, but that you LOVE, love someone. And that’s scary business. I can’t tell you how my husband and I keep saying to each other, “this love stuff is serious and so hard.”
And marriage feels different, really different, “all grown-up, and oh my I have someone I am with and care for”, different.