Online dating is arguably the best way to meet people. This article highlights the good, bad and funny of dating during the digital era. Curious about online dating? Keep reading.
According to hundreds of online daters goals include: sex, hook ups, dating, companionship and love. Daters want their “happily ever after,” but often finding “Mr. or Mrs. Right Now.” Constant communication increases odds off success. Finding the right dating site is essential.
There are hundreds of dating sites to chose from and the advertising can be deceiving. For example, Farmers.com and Match.com both spend top dollar in taking up the television advertisements with pictures and testimonies to the site’s success. Both sites charge a fee and hundreds of partners in the area but both sites are limited in the type of men or women to find. Tinder and Zoosk are good sites but again choices are limited. The best site found for daters to find a person most compatible is Plenty of Fish (POF).
There is no doubt long-lasting relationships can be found when dating online. Be patient and sincere about the reasons you’re on a dating site. Daters sign up to meet new people in an effort not to think or pursue past loves and others just want to have fun. The key is to get on as many free sites as possible find the right ones for you, create a profile and pick away.
Tips for online daters:
- Use a current picture – Very disappointing seeing a photo of a man with slightly graying hair and when you meet him his little to no hair is all gray. Women or men who have gained weight need to use current picture. Deceptive behavior is not advantageous to any relationship.
- Be honest – Don’t lie about your age.
- Say what you mean and mean what you say. Don’t ask for a lifelong partner or soul mate when all you want is a physical relationship or hook up.
- Don’t use photos with a previous spouse, girlfriend, boyfriend or lover.
- Outline important qualities in your description about yourself as well as the person you desire to meet.
- Be courteous, respectful but not boring.
- Be fearless but be safe.
“I dated online for several years and I found it really easy to meet men. But not always the right kind, with Robert it was love and first sight and we have been happily married almost 7 years now.” Christy Wright Tolbert of Happy Elephant said.
Brent a Tinder connection has spoke to 30 women but not personally met any of them. This happens a lot. Tinder seemed best for hook ups and desperate romantics. Match.com and Farmers.com seemed to have the most diversity. Several sites are free. and some ask you to post profile picture but if you want to connect you need to subscribe for a fee.
One dater interviewed named Jeff said, “If you look for the right reason it should work right.”
“It’s not the hook up for sex but being pursued so they can shut the other person down.” Gary said. Gary likes his afternoon cocktails, golf and working hard. Although he found no chemistry after meeting several women, he still believes he’ll find his soulmate.
It can be tricky no question about it but it also has many benefits. Don’t be disappointed if someone you’ve been talking to disappears, just move on. Listen to people and come to realistic conclusions. Not everyone is who they say they are but then again not everyone lies.
Ed who has never married said, “My mother actually joined a dating site and told me about it. As I got older, I was finding it difficult to meet eligible women in the metro Atlanta area. I would say that I was less social than I was in my younger years.”
Ed’s ideal partner besides the norm (Attractive, funny, professional, etc.) is an open minded women he can communicate with. Ed’s been on dating sites for about three years collectively.
“Although there may be physical attraction, there might not be any chemistry. One tends to set up false expectations before a connection has been had. Successful online dating helps in finding more quality women to date than not, Ed said, “However, if I had to judge myself in my ability to remain interested in the pool of dating prospects, then I can say my interest wanes. Once interest wanes for the people or the dating process, setback and failure looms. I have been guilty of the latter.”
On your mission get to know people, find out who they are. The 90 day rule is good to adhere by. No matter how much physical attraction there is wait at least 90 days and get to know your partner. Unless you just want the sex then disregard previous statement. Connecting is only the beginning. Keeping the relationship healthy and alive with a connection that exerts compatibility is key. Growing next to someone that you can have an intimate, honest and loving relationship is ideal. It’s easy to want it so bad that you forget core values. Listen to the inner voice, your gut. Error on the side of caution, people are getting robbed and raped.
The best takeaway never, ever have unprotected sex, under any circumstances. Oral sex can transmit diseases as well. Be responsible so you don’t have tragic life changing regrets. When dating remember the person you meet today may very well be someone you will never talk to again. It’s essential to understand not everyone is honest. Meet in a public place and get to know the person. There is no doubt that online dating has become the best way to get meet people. If you want a relationship, don’t let fear stop you.
Regardless of what site you use: Pleanty of Fish, Eharmony, Match.com, Farmers.com, Tinder, etc. it’s pretty much hit or miss. The focus should not be making connections but keeping them. Online dating has advantages and disadvantages, regardless it’s a great way to meet new people.