If you grew up in a Christian home, then you have heard of the term “unequally yoked.” Essentially, believers are discouraged to engage in intimate relationships with those on another path. However, recently I began to think on broader terms that will encompass all religious backgrounds. I have concluded that from an all inclusive perspective that contrast is often evident when there is a conflict in development. This is exhibited in the exploratory phase versus the acquisition phase.
Most individuals go through an exploratory phase. This phase is characterized by being receptive to trends. The most accurate depiction I can give is the mindset of a typical college freshman. At this age one is emancipated from their parents, have no curfews to follow, and are deciding on future career choices. There is a limited sense of rationale when one is going through an exploratory phase.
An exploratory phase means an increased level of susceptibility. Priorities in this phase are not exactly lined up. In this mindset, if an individual has $100.00 in the bank for the week they will splurge on $75.00 for a tattoo they like. Individuals in an exploratory phase often shun commitment. They merely exist, rarely think twice, and keep it moving. Sacrifice is usually nowhere on their radar.
Maturity brings about the acquisition stage. In this stage one values their future and understands the benefits of making wise decisions daily. Individuals in this stage understand the value of attaining a spouse, investing, and pursuing business endeavors. Therefore, they understand that upward mobility is directly correlated to who they surround themselves with. These individuals prefer quality over quantity.
When an individual in the acquisition stage is attracted to an individual in the exploratory phase the battleground begins. This relationship is characterized by conflict. The individual in the exploratory stage will feel caged and like a child. They will not understand the benefits of planning until they have reached maturation at no predetermined time. Therefore, it is best that individuals on the same wavelengths date.
There is really no need to go through a scream fest once you know what it is that you want. There is no need to be frustrated when reality is that you can simply cut ties if your current situation lacks harmony. For the New Year surround yourself with those whose energy propel you higher. Let go of all toxic relationships.