Calgary is in the heart of the west in Canada, however, this heart doesn’t seem to protect or help abuse victims in and around Calgary. Safety on the internet is paramount for everyone and when one has dealt with abuse or is dealing with abuse one must realize that what is on the internet is one forever and even wiping the drive many times is no guarantee that it will be erased forever.
Many abuse victims, around Calgary, find it natural to find some type of assistance and maybe even find a way to get away. Fortunately, the Internet contains numerous beneficial web sites and articles that can them aid in this mission. Nevertheless we (police, internet security people and mental health care professionals) need to put out the warning that it can also cause more problems for the abuse victims if they or he/she is not as careful as they should be on the net.
One of the snags a victim can contend with is that the abuser might have access to discovering or spying on what is being viewed on their computer(s). Isolating their quarry is one of the countless means they use to keep their abuse from being uncovered. It is correspondingly another way in which they can keep control of the situation.
Note: That is why it is imperative for the victim to find help in ways that doesn’t forewarn their abuser.
If one is being battered, one could compromise themselves all the more if he or she doesn’t take important safety measures when they use the Internet to find help.
Contained in the article a victim or care giver will find information and links to articles that could be helpful information to better protect them.
Computers record and store everything one does. It is NOT POSSIBLE to clear your paths from top to bottom. The computer stores voluminous of bits of information about everything he or she has done with the computer including: information about which websites visited, passwords, and what emails may contain. The abuser can readily track the websites visited or read email messages.
If you or someone suspects y activities are being monitored, they probably are. Abusive people are often controlling and want to know your every move. One doesn’t need to be a computer programmer or have special skills to monitor someone’s computer activities —anyone can do it and there are many ways to monitor your activities —even without having direct access to the computer.
Email is not a safe or confidential way to communicate. Sending email is like sending a postcard through the mail. Anyone along the path can read what it says. If you need to talk to someone about the danger or abuse in your life, if possible, please call a hotline instead.
If one must use email, blog, or messenger to discuss the situation- the suggestion for he/she is to use an account that your abuser doesn’t know about. Set up a new account with a free email service like Hotmail, yahoo, hushmail or Gmail. When the computer asks: would like it to save your password or login information tell it NO- or unclick the box at the bottom of the login area.
If one requires a computer that an abuser knows about, the suggestion of using a “safer” Internet surfing is needed. In example: if one is planning to flee to California or Vancouver, just don’t look at California or Vancouver web pages for jobs, apartments, train tickets etc. Look for the same information in at least a half dozen other states or provinces as well.
The only person at fault for abuse is the abusive person. If you want to talk about if you are in an abusive relationship you can call our Family Violence Helpline at the Calgary Women’s Shelter at 403-234-SAFE (7233).