One secret to success in dealing with work, family and everyday life is to realize there is no one strategy or concept to develop. So much of it depends on your character, knowledge, skill level and background. There are many proven approaches to boost your abilities, know-how and perceptions to happiness and victory.
Take this quick self-assessment to help determine your level of social anxieties. Check the characteristics that describe you.
___Overwhelmingly concerned with the way others judge me.
___ Scared to speak in front of others or to interact in group settings.
___ Uncomfortable asserting myself.
___Nervous about speaking to authority figures.
___Extremely self-conscious when others look at me.
___Very concerned I will shake, blush or perspire in front of others.
___Afraid or very uncomfortable in front of strangers.
If you determined your anxiety levels are severe, it’s a good idea to seek the advice and help of a professional. For less severe anxieties, consider these coping tips:
If your anxiety starts to build up, take a moment to calm down. Close your eyes, loosen your lower jaw and imagine a peaceful scene. Try flexing and then relaxing the muscles in your arms and legs as you take deep breaths from your abdomen.
If there’s something you need to do to prepare for an upcoming social situation, don’t wait until the last minute. It is important to make sure you’re ready. If you’re worried about delivering a speech, spend the time needed to practice until your confidence level is better. If you’re anxious about meeting new people, think of a few conversation starters ahead of time.
Avoiding social situations will only support and deepen fears. But diving into a feared state can be overwhelming. Try easing into social settings by taking a series of small steps. If you’re frightened by large groups of strangers, attend a few parties or events where you know several people first.
Extinguish distorted perceptions:
When we look for ways to improve, it’s tempting to on specific areas we don’t like about ourselves. Many people carrying along unrealistic views of themselves and the significance of their influence. We take for granted or overlook our many vital skills, abilities and virtues. A trusted friend can give you feedback, if you are ready to receive it. Besides, how likely is it that people are judging you are paying attention to the little mistakes you make? Not too likely is the truthful answer.