There has always been the temptation to make sure that you’re not being cheated on, but technology has just increased that anxiety even more. The fact that your significant other could be talking to someone else via text message, G chat, Facetime, Skype, IG, Facebook, Twitter and more makes it that much more difficult to refrain from checking in to make sure you’re not being cheated on. But when does innocent curiosity transform into a serious lack of trust?
Should you go through your significant other’s phone?
If you trust each other, looking is not necessary. Relationships should be built on trust. If you are with someone that you feel like you can’t trust, you probably shouldn’t be with them in the first place. It’s normal to have a certain level of insecurity, but you can’t let your insecurity get the best of you. And you have to know the difference between you being insecure and feeling like your significant other is cheating on you. If you and your sweet-honey-love-muffin are truly in a good place and you know you have nothing to worry about, respect their privacy and don’t touch that phone!
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If you look, you will find. You may convince yourself you’re just curious, but nine times out of ten, that curiosity is really your gut telling you something is wrong. You usually want to check the phone because there are other clues of infidelity that you’ve simply been ignoring. If you seriously feel like you need to check the phone (and pockets, emails, etc.) then you probably just need to to avoid all the drama and hype of looking for something and have a conversation instead. Talk to your partner about what’s really bothering you instead of going on a wild goose chase.
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What will you do when you actually find something? Many people call themselves innocently looking through their partner’s phone, but then are shocked and devastated when they actually find something! Chances are, if you go digging for dirt, you will find it. But in all of the excitement of looking… you forgot to emotionally prepare yourself for what you would do if you actually found something.
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The key to a solid relationship is communication. If you and your partner have open lines of communication, there is not room for a lack of trust. There is no room for doubt. And there is no room for snooping through your significant other’s phone. Resist the temptation and respect your partner’s privacy.
What do you think? Should you go through your significant other’s phone??
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