Spiritualists regularly communicate with the souls of those that have passed. Some believe this is possible; some don’t. Spiritual mediums are not focused on proving these communications. Those that receive the messages know the truth of what is said.
For those that are alone, the process of passing can be very scary. For those left behind, there can be great sorrow that a loved one or friend has departed. There was a woman in our city that got lung cancer that progressed to bone cancer that progressed to cancer of about everything. She had no family. She had friends, but the friends were uncomfortable talking about death. They wanted to talk about the weather, and the Buckeyes, and anything but her cancer and death.
We had many conversations. Sometimes we laughed. Sometimes we cried. Mostly we just talked while the dishes got done, papers were sorted, and the cats and rabbits were fed and watered. She didn’t worry much about herself. She worried a lot about the cats and rabbits, and what would happen to them. We worked that out.
As the cancers progressed, she got weaker and weaker. The radiation to shrink the cancers in her lungs weakened her, and she couldn’t eat much. The chemotherapy was delayed and finally cancelled because she wasn’t strong enough to stand the side effects of the drugs. She continued to lose weight, lose her balance, and gradually lose her ability to remember.
One day, we had a conversation about what happens after we die. The poem below is dedicated to Terry Layne. She was a courageous person. The poem is pretty much what we said to each other. When she passed, she was not afraid, angry or sad. She was glad to be out of pain at last.
Guidance to Passing
“I am scared,” she said.
“Why are you afraid?” I asked.
“I don’t know what will happen”, she replied.
“It will be all right,” I said.
“How do you know?” she asked.
“Because Spirit tells me”, I replied.
“What does Spirit say?” she asked.
“It will be all right” I replied.
“Who are these spirits?” she asked.
“They are your grandparents,
and your departed friends,
and the Masters” I replied.
“How will they know me?” she asked.”
“They have always been with you” I replied.
“Are you sure they will know me?” she asked.
“They will know you by the love in your heart” I replied.
“Are you sure?” she asked.
“I am very sure.
Do not be afraid;
just follow the light”. I said.
“What if I can’t see the light?” she asked.
“The light will surround you.
It is the light of God.
That light never goes away” I replied.
“When will I pass?” she asked.
“When your soul is ready.
Your Guides will visit you
when it is time to go.” I replied.
“Do you know this is true?” she asked.
“Oh yes, I will follow you.
All of us are on the same journey.
You are just leading the way.” I said.
“I will miss you,” she said.
“And, I will miss you, too.”
Close your eyes and rest.
Your journey is just beginning.” I said and closed my eyes.
© Copyright 2011
Rev. Jim Hetzer
Terry passed at Kobacker House, a wonderful caring sanctuary provided by Riverside Methodist Hospital. She passed while I was sleeping. I was there in a few minutes to comb her hair and wait with another friend until Terry was removed.
If you are afraid of what will happen to you or a loved one when life is done, you don’t need to fear. It is part of the cycle of life. Focus on living a good life. Death takes care of itself.