Many have told me that I have natural leadership skills and at one time, I just thought it was part of the gene pool. Now I am not so sure. We all have the potential to develop leadership ability. However, we need to be serious about that potential to grow in a positive manner through failing, learning from others, role-modeling, being nurtured and encouraged. Actually, like most education, studies have shown that early childhood experience can help contribute to positive leadership development.
And here are the 64 dollar questions?
How do children learn to be friendly?
How do children learn to be optimistic?
How do children learn warmth and enthusiasm?
How do you guide their passion?
How do they learn to problem solve and make decisions?
How do they stay calm during the storm?
How do they remain honest?
How do they work in a team building relationships with others?
What if they make mistakes?
How can they do their very best?
The answer is you, as parents, caregivers, teachers, friends, that have to model what you want them to see and learn.
Many, who are working parents don’t always have the best of days…it is difficult to remain consistent on highlight and hope but when we sigh, worry and feel depressed,so do our children, whether we realize or not.
Not following a consistent schedule or work ethic with energy and enthusiasm will allow our children to fall into the same behavior pattern
Involved and engaged parents can help by noticing their interests… how their eyes light up and encouraging those passions.
Know the rules, teach them to understand and have them make age appropriate decisions…ask them what they think or how they would solve a problem.
If a poor decision is made, how can you rectify it.
Talk to them about emergency plans, what would they do if the power went off, they got lost.
Actions need to line up with behavior…trust is one of the most important aspects of any successful venture. If they exaggerate, don’t be afraid to helpfully re-direct their lack of honesty.
Get them involved in groups, sports events, community volunteering, charity events where they are learning that the world isn’t about just them but the team and helping others grow with accomplishment.
And perseverance prevails when all else fail. Children love to begin something and quit when they are tired and bored. If in an activity they are not really thrilled with, try to have them stick it out show them that event from another perspective may improve rather than pulling them from the team or event.
Without failure, we really don’t know the art of success. And it is ok to make mistakes if they have learned from those and do their best not to repeat.
It is not about competing with others, but trying each day to do your best. Teach your children to review their day and how they could improve adding to their sense of self and most of all, the next step forward.
Time should be of essence in learning to remain focused on excellence.
Though children are their own worst enemies being influenced by a dangerous world, so all we can do is continue to model and pray.