This is an issue that doesn’t hit too many couples until after they have invested quite some time into the relationship. When it seems that you have found that “compatible” person you wish to be your forever partner. What happens when all the bliss has dimmed? Most couples seem to hit the problem after months, years into it or even after they’ve married. This should be something that is discussed during the course of your dating. It may not be that there would be any problems at any time. Preparing yourself for the “possibility” can help.
Seriously people when you’re having conversations with your significant other; shouldn’t sex be a topic? Well, for some it’s not that simple for some people, especially men. Yes, I said it. Some men feel that they do not have any issues when it comes to that; even when they do. Women on the other hand want & love to talk about everything.
When your relationship has hit the “bedroom problems” don’t be afraid to communicate the issues. Don’t brush anything off as if it’s just a phase. This can be a doorway to infidelity. Men become tired of the “nagging” partners questions. “Why are we not making love anymore?” What is the problem? Are you not attracted to me anymore? Is there someone else? LADIES, the men DO get irritated by all the questions. Yes they are legitimate questions to be addressed but how many times will you ask? This also goes vice versa. Ladies if your partner wants you, he showing you he desires you. Stop with the “I have a headache” I am tired, the kids will wake up; I have to get up early. “Excuse after excuse will bother him just as much as when a woman is rejected.
COMMUNICATION is key. If the two of you accept that there is a problem & love each other enough to work on it; then do so. Do not let this issue become the doorway to separation. Sex isn’t everything in a relationship but it is something to be addressed. If more couples spoke more about open subjects perhaps they would have a better long lasting relationship.
If the problem does happen in your relationship here are 2 major tips to keep in mind.
MEN: Don’t feel like you’re being attacked or humiliated when your partner asks WHY there is no “effort” on your behalf. It’s a simple question. If it’s NOT a physical impairment then communicating with your partner can possibly resolve whatever the issue can be.
WOMEN: When you’re not just a mother; never forget you’re his wife also. Make that time to share that love. Don’t pressure your partner, wait patiently, do what you need to do to help the matter. Remember when you keep making excuses; someone else won’t.
The key to a happy, long lasting relationship is communicating about EVERYTHING; making that a top priority can benefit you both in many aspects.